Giving away power to your partner can be an immense erotic
sensation. Being tied up, relatively helpless and being
launched by your partner into your own fantasies and dreams
some people call that sub space - can be thrilling, relaxing
and revealing at the same time. Pain, tickling and all sorts
of other impulses - when administered with care and skill
can pump up your endorphins, giving you the same sensation
sports people will sometimes feel. On the other hand, the
dominant partner will feel the adrenaline and serotonin
flow freely through his or her body, giving them a very
powerful feeling and very intense and caring emotion at the
same time. No, the people that do it don't need the power
element to be able to have an orgasm or an interesting and
rewarding relationship, but yes, they do need the power
element to be present and used in their relationship.
An umbrella for lots of different things
Erotic power exchange is a very individual, personal experience.
That is why it is very hard to describe what it is exactly. The
only element all these people - and that includes you - have in
common is the fact that - for their own individual reasons
they are fascinated by the power element in a sexual/relational
context. What they do, how they do it and why may be completely
different things
Erotic power exchange is an umbrella argument. One couple may
fill it in as tying her up in bed, another may be fascinated
by the idea of a "strange" man walking into the bedroom
capturing her and a third may have a relationship where he
serves her in any aspect. Many others will look for the
spiritual and personal growths, this may bring about. Others are
in it for the kink. All of that is quite all right, as long as
it feels good for you and it brings you what you are looking for.
Erotic power exchange is like golf: it is highly individual, you
are the master of your own game and you are also your own referee
It is entirely about what you want to do. You do not have to copy
others. You do not even have to agree with what others do. It is
your game, your thoughts, your emotions and your fantasies. It
is what you and your (future) partner share. It is being able
to explore the borders of your mind and imagination in a very
safe environment.
To many people erotic power exchange is not just about sex,
but a lifestyle. Most people that do it will recognize it
as something very personal, something very much belonging to
themselves. To many it is a way to express themselves.
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